From Fear to Fabulous!

I am here to make a difference! If you have been following me you know I am on a journey. My journey to being self employed also allows me to pass my gifts to a much larger number of people than I ever could working as a therapist. What started out as a journey for me has turned into a movement to eradicate self esteem problems! If you feel stuck do to fear you are in the right place. My goal is to get you moving. Even a small amount of movement forward can make you feel fabulous! The cool thing is once the ball starts rolling momentum takes over and what seemed like a dream can become a reality sometimes over night!

How do I know this? Because I have lived it! I have come a long way! I won't get into my life story again. Previous blogs have covered bits and pieces. I recently did a Facebook live where I went through this in detail.  If you missed it feel free to check it out here.  https://www.facebook.com/minasselfesteembuilder/videos/841315592670659/ 

One of the things that Facebook has done recently is that they want to make sure a business provides relevant information to the customer. From this I have been on a mission to find out what you want and provide that content to you. What I have come to find out is that the best way to do that is to provide you with content that means something to me because I am you! Yes I am just like you and my goal is to get you to stop being complacent with the status quo and actively make shifts that will move you out of fear and build momentum for you to create any future you want! 

Did you know you have a choice about your future? Did you know you are not destined to be where you are right now mentally or physically forever? I didn't know it at the beginning. If you do know this already you are way ahead of many other people including myself prior to beginning my journey to be a coach.  

Fear kept me stuck in the same place for many years. Have you ever heard the definition of insanity? The definition is doing the same thing over and over and expecting things to be different. I did this for many years in my relationships and in my professional life. Do you want to know what got me unstuck? Learning how to control my fear and use it as a motivator to get out of complacency! 

This is what I want to bring to you with this FREE Tele-Seminar From Fear to Fabulous! I have set the date in September and will announce that to my email list this week. I will be providing the call information to my email subscribers only. That is the only way I can guarantee that the information will get to you. Just being a fan of my Facebook page is not enough. On an average day only 2-5% of my fan base will see what I post due to the way Facebook manages your newsfeed (you can increase your chances of seeing things regularly by liking and sharing the content. This tells Facebook that you want to see more). The easiest way to see the daily quotes and any new information on my events is to become a part of my email list! I share the same daily quotes along with reminders and information about events. Please subscribe here to guarantee access to the daily quotes and information.  http://bit.ly/2cjPmUH

My new program From Fear to Fabulous is a direct result of me making sure I know what kind of content you want and bringing it to you regularly. I hear the pain from being stuck and unable to move out of your current reality! This pain comes directly from fear which if used properly can fuel your journey to momentum as you begin to create the future you want! 

I can't wait to bring this to you! This FREE content is my way of saying thanks for the love and support you have given me along my journey. It is my turn to give back! Please sign up here for information on this and other events!  http://bit.ly/2cjPmUH

Love and Light, 

Mina

The introvert and loneliness

What does loneliness mean to you? It's a simple question that seems easy to answer but did you know that loneliness is different for different people? For me loneliness happens when I allow myself to isolate from others for long periods of time.  

THE INTROVERT  

Yes I am an introvert! What does that mean exactly? That means that I can be alone for long periods of time without a single twinge of loneliness. When I am by myself I recharge my batteries. If I know I will be going to a function with a lot of people I have to mentally prepare myself to engage in conversation or small talk. I feel emotionally drained at the end and must recharge which comes by solitude. To some of you this may sound backwards. My loneliness comes from my own desire to isolate and not engage in friendships or make excuses to not go to social functions because it is easier.  

I have learned that I am the only one who can break that cycle and here is what has worked for me.  

1. I ask myself what I want when it comes to relationships? Do I want a significant other in my life? Do I want to have long term friendships? Do I want close relationships with family? If the answer is yes to any of these questions then I go to the next question.  
2. What am I willing to do to make this happen? Is this relationship important enough to me to make the effort to get out of my comfort zone to make it work? Am I expecting others to come to me and not making an effort to go to them?  
3. How can I get past my fear of getting out there? What can I do to expand my ability to sustain relationships? This is where the real miracle comes! I become willing to seek outside help so that I can create long lasting relationships! 

I have worked for years as a therapist and helped others identify this as the problem. It was not until I got into coaching that I found a real solution! The solution comes in the form of processes that helped me to expand my mind and willingness to identify what I want.  I then allow the Universe to give me exactly what I ask for when I become willing to look at the part my own thinking comes in creating my own reality.  I have to make the decision to make my life better!

As you may or may not know I recently became engaged after years of dead end relationships. I am convinced that the Universe brought him to me only when I was ready to do the work needed to help the relationship expand. We met just prior to me taking the step to become a certified coach.  I was able to attract a healthy long term partnership after being single for 15 years. (For info on my first marriage and how I was effected look at the  three blog posts "My loved one is addicted") .

I am beginning to realise that in my desire to become a coach what I am really doing is starting a movement to help others that want to make a shift learn how to go about it.  

If any of this resonates with you please leave a comment or share with your friends. The answer to all the questions around loneliness for the introvert has an answer. In my next blog I will do my best to look at loneliness for the extrovert. This is much more difficult because I have never personally experienced this but don't fret extroverts I will be gaining insight on this from other coaches and bring you answers next month!

If you are curious about coaching but not sure if it's for you. Please contact me for an initial Energy Healing session at my expense! Mina@minasselfesteembuilder.com  

I am telling my story and would love to know yours! Don't let another minute go by feeling lonely!! 

FIND YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE

I can't believe it is almost here. My first official public webinar. Talk about having to find my self confidence! This is a huge deal for me! Why? Because I am so nervous but at the same time so excited to be going public! 

Have you been following me for a while? If you have then you know that this is the first of its kind. Why has it taken me so long? Believe it or not because of a lack of self confidence. It was not until I heard a mentor say that I was doing a disservice to all of my loyal followers not to provide a bigger way to spread my message than just one on one!! This information is way too important to keep to myself!  

I am going to blow the surprise of part of the webinar by saying at some point you have to tell the monkey brain to shut up and do whatever it is anyway because the fear of doing it is way worse than the actual act itself. So that is what I have done. My secret is out! This is my first and I am ready to tackle it head on! 

What is the monkey mind you ask? Oh it's that chatter that says I am not good enough or no one will want to hear what I have to say. It goes on 24/7 and at times I just have to tell it that I am not going to listen and do it anyway!  

I have a duty to get my message out! For all of you that hear that monkey mind 24/7 there are ways to quiet it long enough to have ideas come to you and go for the gusto! 

I want to personally invite everyone who wants to get past that monkey mind and get out of the safe box that is holding you back to please purchase your ticket and enter your registration information so you will receive the call details.  Http://www.Mylanderpages.com/SelfEsteemBuilder/Find-Your-Self-Confidence

I cant wait to meet everyone and share this life changing moment with you! We are going to learn together how to FIND YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE and I am going to lead you by example! 

JUNE 26,2016 

2pm central time ( if you have a question about what time that is for you just ask) 

In your favorite chair with your most relaxing things around you we will walk this journey together! 

I can't wait to meet you! See you there! 

My loved one is addicted part 3

I know it's been a while. A lot has happened since my last post. I have gotten engaged after over ten years of being single. My oldest daughter has moved back in with me for the first time since she was 17 (she is now 21). If you read my last post this is no small thing. My youngest daughter is navigating middle school and we are all living happily ever after under one roof! Well okay you got me that is not entirely true. Addiction has effected us all profoundly. In March of 2014 the children's father passed away of ongoing heart problems one month shy of his 51st birthday. I am happy to say he was sober when he died other than the medications prescribed to keep him comfortable in his last days. Now that the addict/alcoholic is gone is help really necessary for the family? 

I am at a crossroads in my life right now. I took the bold move to obtain a coaching certification from October 2014 to November 2015 when I was finally certified. I have manifested a position at my day job which I love and was at a point of burnout when I started the coaching program.  Being in the spotlight is not easy for me so marketing my business has been a challenge. I have committed to a lifetime with the love of my life which has also been through the power of manifestation. Prior to that I was in one dead end relationship after another.  I am watching my children who continue to grieve the loss of their father navigate life and decide on their own paths and realising I can only provide support and encouragement. I can't fix the pain or loss that they feel but I can provide them with ongoing help and support through outside resources. 

So now where do I start to make sense of my life and have the strength to be there emotionally and mentally for my kids so they can grow into responsible adults? Everyone needs help finding their way especially when life seems to go so far off course. It serves no purpose to blame any one action or inaction from myself or the addicted loved one for my circumstance. I have learned that I am the creator of my own future and for my children to have a chance at stability and happiness I need to create the best future for myself that I can. Here are the steps I am taking to manifest my perfect life! 

1. Gain clarity in the life I want to create.  

Why is clarity important? Manifesting is impossible when I am not clear on what I want. I will use my relationships for an example. In the past I knew I was looking for a lifetime partner but due to the pain and hurt I have experienced I was always looking for what I didn't want in a relationship rather than what I did want. In other words I was attracting people through a negative energy which kept me feeling like every relationship lacked something I needed. Living in lack created the space for fear and doubt to creep in which is no good for finding a life partner. It was not until I used the knowledge of what I didn't want to identify what I did want did my love life begin to turn around. Gaining clarity is essential and the coaching I got and coaching tools I learned allowed me to find that clarity.  

2. Why do I want to create this life? 

Why is it important to know why? It is only when I found out why I wanted to create this new life did things start to change for me. For me my why is creating stability for my future, becoming able to fully support my children financially without the help of my parents and to be able to spend my retirement comfortably with the ability to travel. I have to be fully invested in the why before manifestation can take place. I have to feel in line with the direction I am taking to make things work. When that is present the knowledge that the Universe will support me in manifesting my vision is so comforting!! I really just have to take the roads presented to me and at times take a leap of faith that this road is right.  

My primary example of this is the money I spent to become certified as a coach. I felt called to coaching like someone who is called to the ministry. The financial leap taken by this single parent was no small one. I had a little money that I wanted to invest and I thought what better way to invest than in myself. The expense also kept me focused to complete all assignments in a timely manner to achieve my goal of certified coach. All I can say is that I have already gotten my money's worth in the things I have been able to manifest so far that whether I become a full time coach or not (I am a part time coach right now and don't have the why yet to quit my job and make the leap to full time) I am so grateful for the experiences and the learning.  

3. How will living this life make me feel? 

The Universe and the Law of Attraction works not by what I think but how I feel. If I am living in fear and lack I will continue to manifest fear and lack. I have learned that to create the life I want I need a baseline feeling that I already have what I want to create. This is the part that requires so much help from a coach or a support group or both because those of us who have been touched by addiction are negatively charged at baseline. I could think of the most negative outcome for a certain problem and obsess about it for days or weeks prior to becoming involved in the family support groups that I still attend today. By the time I went into the coaching program I was aware of terms like detachment and letting go but it was not until I went through my certification program that I saw how these things were related to the Univesal Laws and how these laws worked within the steps to help people become sober and family members become sain. Truly all spiritual practices are in tune with the Universe and our vision of a higher power that brings calm to the storm and helps our thinking to become more positive. When utilising all supports at my disposal I began to feel that I had the security all along (think Dorothy there's no place like home). When I feel happy and secure I begin to manifest from that place and things begin to happen as if by magic! 

My story is by no means over. My life continues to produce miracles including my oldest choosing to live with me again while she goes to school. I am not looking for perfection but a sense of peace and serenity that to me makes my life feel perfect. With that in mind I have created my first products just for you. Creating the perfect life is within your grasp as it is mine. I have been where you are and want to be there to help you quiet the storm. Your first session is always at my expense. Is creating your perfect life something you strive for?  

Please contact me for your first clarity session to see if we connect. We don't need perfect lives to create the feelings of perfection. We only need guidance, willingness and the ability to take a leap of faith!! I have found that and so can you.  

Pictured here are my niece, Cassie, my oldest Shelby, my youngest Sarah and my sister Lisa. This was taken at Universal Studios last Christmas. No perfect pictures here but cherishing the memories!! 

Will you let me help you find your perfect life?  Contact me to start now!!

My loved one is addicted part 2

How do you know what your life purpose is? Can you use your experiences to heal others and yourself? As you know I recently became certified as a law of attraction coach. Now that I have the training I must take my experiences, make sense of them and share them with others as a way to make those experiences count. If you have not read my previous blog post please do so now. 

My initial training is in social work. I have spent the last 26 years working in mental health specifically and at least half of that time working with substance abusers.  The other half of the time I spent working with our mentally ill consumers. 

As I wrote in my last blog while working in our SA programs my husband who was initially in recovery moved into relapse. I could spend a bunch of time trashing him or sharing war stories but this blog is about me and my recovery. The first major point I want to make is 1. Trashing the alcoholic/addict especially in public or in front of family/children only makes matters worse. My oldest daughter was 4 when the addiction came out. She is now 21 and told me recently that her first memory was of me throwing her dad out of the house. Although now she understands our relationship was forever changed. 

To say my oldest was oppositional was an understatement. Every encounter with her seemed like war. She once threw her mattress across the room. As I said before this is not about them it is about me. I became depressed. I was working, trying to raise a very angry daughter and grieving the loss of the future I thought our family was going to have. The second big thing I need to share is that the anger is only in small part about the actions/inactions of the alcoholic/addict. 2. The anger at my husband was not from his actions as much as the loss of the dream I had about our future. My expectations created the ongoing pain and resentment I was feeling. The importance of this point is astronomical! Only when I got to the point that I could see that was I in a position to begin healing. 

I know what you are thinking because I thought this too. "I am not the problem he/she is the problem. If they would get sober then things would be okay". This leads me to the third major point. 3. My pain is only going to go away when I make the decision to work on myself. Sobriety is not the key to happiness. Even if the blessing of sobriety comes to your house there are still unresolved hurts and anger that must be dealt with on all sides for full family healing to take place. That being said sobriety does not come to every household. So what does that mean? 4. Sobriety is not essential for the family members to begin the healing process. If you are like me this really pisses you off because it did me. They can just check out on life and their responsibilities while I have to do all this hard work on myself to help myself and my children/grandchildren (One thing I learned from my work is that there are now many grandparents that are raising their grandchildren due to the addiction of their grown child). 

Although the loved one could be a parent, child, spouse or other significant person in your life the road to your healing is the same. For me initially my healing came from Al-anon meetings. I did not learn about coaching until many years later. I still go to meetings weekly as a way to keep focus. If I had not found this program and continued to use it I would have completely lost it.  

My journey did not end with my husband going to treatment. How could I go back to work dealing with addiction all day long? How was I going to reconnect with my oldest daughter who was out of control angry at me and not her dad (that part really sucked)? There will be more of my story in my next post.  

Are you hurting? Would you like to begin the healing process? Please contact me! I can help you begin the healing process right away or help you get to the place where you feel confident to start meetings.  

If you want to connect with like minded people please join my new Facebook page  https://www.facebook.com/Mylovedoneisaddicted/

Are you an enabler? Enabling extends the addiction and makes using comfortable or easy which delays the recovery process for your loved one.  

My Loved One is Addicted

What do you do when the Universe is pushing you to share your experience, strength and hope but the story is so personal that writing it down for others to read is painful? That is the position I have found myself in recently as a newly certified coach. I have come to realize that my story is important to who I am and that if you are going to trust me to help you with your journey my journey should be made public.  

One of the things I was taught this past year is that "what you resist persists".  In law of attraction terms what you focus on expands and if you have resistance around something then it will continue to hang around until it is dealt with.  

My self esteem issues started young and primarily centered around weight issues. I grew up in a family riddled with alcoholism on both sides but recovery entered my home when I was young thankfully. My grandparents lived in Akron,Ohio which is the Mecha for Alcoholics Anonymous and as the story goes the program was birthed there in the carriage house of what later became Stan Hewitt Hall. Multiple family members were in the program and I was around the program as a young child. My focus, however, was drinking cokes out of bottles and eating cake at the end.  Little did I know these experiences would foreshadow my personal and professional journey. 

Jump ahead to college and graduate school where my self esteem issues were a problem and my behavior although not much different than most college students was causing me problems.  I socialized with very few people and when I did I partied hard. While in graduate school for Social Work a close friend of mine went to treatment and I was devastated. Not only was I devastated but I was lost. How could my social life be tied completely to only one person? I was advised by my mother of all people to go to Al-Anon. This program has brought me more peace and understanding than I could have ever hoped for.  Al-Anon is a 12 step program for family and friends of alcoholics. I have since been attending for over 25 years and the tools I was taught helped me through every area of my life.

Now back to spring of 1989 I began attending the meetings, started feeling stronger and happier. In those meetings I was also introduced to a very handsome and charming (they are all very charming at the beginning) blonde haired and blue eyed recovering addict/alcoholic that I later married.   Are you beginning to see where I am going with this?

I began my job at the local mental health center and found myself working in the substance abuse division due to my extensive understanding of 12-step programs. I ran groups, did assessments, coordinated an inpatient program for women and as the job description reads "any other duties as assigned". Little did I know that as I worked day in and day out with addicts and alcoholics my life was about to take a devastating turn. Right under my trained nose my husband was in full relapse and I had no idea. 

In the next few blog posts I will share with you my experience with addiction. How it devastated me personally and professionally. How addiction effected my marriage and my children. How I eventually found my life again and how I now have the experience to help others with similar issues through my coaching programs. This is a series you will not want to miss. These blogs will be difficult and emotional for me to write but for me to help you I must lay it all out to show you that there is hope and that the Universe has your back in all the dark times. I wish I had these coaching tools along with my support groups back then. I know my journey would have been easier.  

Has your life been affected by someone else's addiction? If so I want to invite you to join my new Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/Mylovedoneisaddicted/

You don't have to go through this journey alone!! Are you ready to heal? 

This is how it started for me.......

I was asked a question on my Facebook page the other day. I was expressing gratitude for my recent certification as a law of attraction coach. I was sharing my win as we were taught in class. Among the congrats by those on my Facebook page came the question "so what does that mean for me?" Hmm I was so busy feeling gratitude that the question took me back.  

I replied with the fact that after a year of skills training I would be able to share with my client's amazing processes which would help them shift to a better place. I also shared that a personal win no matter how big or small is something to be celebrated. She boasted that she had "great self esteem" and that she felt no need to share her wins with "total strangers". "That is why I have real friends."

I must confess that my first thought was "if you don't like it get off my post". I have learned over the years to act and not react. I began thinking to myself what was it about having a negative interaction that touched me so? I have come to the conclusion that in my desire to help others what I do is not for everyone.  That is okay too. I don't have to feel personally slighted if someone disagrees. 

I then began thinking globally about self esteem and feeling attacked when others don't agree with me. How many times have you had what you thought was a great idea only to have someone close to you or a total stranger come at you with negativity? I must admit dealing with others negativity about my actions has never been easy for me. I always felt personally attacked even if they were trying to be professional (I do have a day job).  

I know within myself that self esteem has always been an issue. It evolved from weight issues as a child to relationship issues as an adult. The one common thread is much of the time I did not feel good enough for success in all areas so I settled for what I thought I could get. With that I was always waiting for the other shoe to drop. It was not until I began to learn to look for what was "right" in my life rather than what was "wrong" did I start to have courage to try new things.  

The incident the other day,however, reminds me that I am still human. Inside that little girl with low self esteem still runs around and I will be triggered when someone criticizes what I am doing. I know now that it takes discipline and understanding within myself to keep her feeling comforted.  

The bottom line is that 100% of people are not going to agree all the time with what I am doing. My three choices are to take their comments as a personal assault and crawl in a hole. I could take it as a declaration of war and become angry and destructive to myself and others or I can take it for what it is. Not all people will agree with me and my choices. I don't have to let that little girl inside feel she is "not good enough" when others have their own opinions. 

Why self esteem as a niche? Well I believe strongly that how we feel about ourselves can sabotage anything that we want to be successful at.  This includes jobs, relationships and will completely halt any ability to manifest or create.  I am here to tell you that if you want to stop this pattern I can help. I want others to feel the success that I have felt in the last few years. I want others to have the courage to reach for a new vocation if that is what calls them. That little kid inside can be soothed and quieted. He/she can become a part of your journey and will be helpful to this process.  

If this resonates with you please share to all your social networks below. I want to help people no longer feel enslaved by their negative thoughts and not allow other's opinions to slow them down in creating their perfect life.  

Do you feel that child within crying with hurt and pain? Please contact me when you are ready to make shifts that will sooth and comfort to begin the healing process.  

Love and light, 

Mina  

How to use Thanksgiving to manifest in 3 easy steps.

Do you have Holiday traditions? Are there special recipes that are cooked once a year? Does the family get together and eat like it was their last meal? If you are like most people in the US the answer is yes, yes and heck yea!!  

We all know the story about the Pilgrims and Native Americans sitting down to a feast after a bountiful harvest. So why is that important today and why make that a holiday? I hear the answers loud and clear. Here in the south it would appear football is king that weekend. Roll Tide!! I just had to throw that in. Are you ready to manifest your deepest desires? Here are three ways to begin that process and what better time than this week to start? 

Make a list of specific things to manifest this year.  

We all say I want more money or a better job. I want a new relationship or I  want a better relationship with family.  I want a vacation this year. This is a good start. The more specific the better. Do yo want to go to Disney World or do you want a specific type of job? What are the character traits you want in a new relationship? I suggest that you list only one or two things for the year so you can be focused and clear. Overwhelm causes apathy and an inability to focus which blocks the manifestation process.  

For each item on your list get specific about why you want this thing.  

How will having or doing this thing make your life better? If you can't answer the question of why then manifestation will get stuck right here. Will it give you a sense of freedom? Will it eleviate fear? Will it give you a sense of well being? If you have the answer to those questions write them down next to each thing on your list.   The more specific you are the better. 

On Thanksgiving Day write down what you will feel when those things manifest and then answer this question. What am I grateful for today that already makes me feel this way? 

Why is this important? Because the Universe responds positively only to positive vibrations. What you focus on expands. If you focus on a LACK of money then a lack of money will be the only thing you manifest. If you focus on all the good things your money has done for you such as putting a roof over your head or turkey in your belly then more of the same will follow.  Do you say thanks and really mean it when you find a dollar on the street? Although these actions seem small they are essential to the process of manifesting. 

How will you use this information to your advantage this week? I would love to hear from you! Please have a safe and wonderful holiday!! 

Love and Light  

Mina

 Would you like a free session? In just 30-45 minutes you will make a spiritual breakthrough with me at your side for free. Please contact me to get yours now! The holidays are the perfect time to begin your journey of reaching your goals for 2016!

I am in awe of the power of the Universe aren't you? The mighty Colorado river created this Canyon. What can the Universe do for you? 

Bathroom renovation is manifestation at its finest!!

Okay so my house was built in 1960. My upstairs bathroom has bugged me ever since we bought the house. It was primarily yellow tile with small brownish tile on the floor. For years I have been plagued with leaks that went through the floor and into the bathroom below which has basically made that bathroom unusable at times.  

Fast forward to last fall when my oldest daughter was getting in the shower and the floor gave way. Yikes! "Mom there's a hole in the floor". "A what" I asked. I went in and found part of the tile by the tub gave way so there was no doubt it was time for an upgrade. There was only one problem. Where was the money going to come from? 

This question haunted me everyday as I took my shower and prayed I would not land in the tub downstairs. One evening during class we were going over a process and the teacher said "Focus on what you really want". She had us visualise something we wanted to manifest and put it on a pedestal in our minds. All I could think of was a new bathroom. I didn't focus on money I just focused on my desire for a bathroom renovation and what it would look like when it was completed. Class ended and I went about my normal routine.  

Jump ahead to February of this year. I got my w-2 and went into Turbo Tax. I had one daughter in Jr.  College and I was going through a coaching certification. Low and behold I could deduct both of those costs and my refund was a whopping $6500. I was stunned!! As a single parent with a modest income I had decent refunds but nothing that high.  

My first thought was my bathroom!! We began renovation in July. I bought all of the fixtures and tiles. I laid out the design and asked the contractor for a labor cost only. The rest as they say is history. Coincidence maybe but the results are undeniable. I focused, took some action and boom a new bathroom!! Has there ever been a time in your life when you didn't know how you were going to handle a certain dilemma and somehow the Universe provided a way for it to happen? This has happened in the past but never on such a grand scale. 

As I have grown from the coaching certification process I am now much more aware of how manifestation works and how the Universe wants us to succeed and have everything that we need. Please leave a comment below if you have experienced the Universe, God or whatever your belief is about divine help being delivered right on time!! 

$8000 was manifested for this project. My vision was the finished product not the money.  

Would you like to have a free session? Is your life overwhelming and stressful? Your free session is just an email away!! 

My dream life....

 

How often have you day dreamed about the day when your life will be simple and easy? All the bills will be paid. There will be no day to day stressors to distract you from your travels or being able to sit by the pool. Then the reality sets in and you think "That will never happen".  The  reality comes back of bills, work, constant pressure of life's demands and the fantasy stops right there. 

I painted that picture because I have been there. As a single parent who works 8-5 I was blessed with a job that pretty much covered the bills but there was not a lot left over. Sometimes there were things left unpaid and I would have to double up the next month. I have been able to maintain this way of life for almost 20 years now since we bought the house. I have refinanced a couple of times so I am not as close as I would like to be on paying it off. 

I have 25 years in with my therapist job and I am starting to think about retirement. I made a huge financial commitment to begin the QSCA so that I might be able to do coaching as a way to supplement my income when I decide to take that big leap into getting out of the security of a 40 hour week. I still have that same dream that I wrote about above. What I did not realize is that same life is available to me right now and that through the Law of Abundance I could actually manifest all the things I had dreamed about by believing that the Universe was there to support me. 

I have to tell you that although I lived in gratitude I also lived in fear that if I spent money on things like travel or renovating the house there would not be anything left for bills and other necessities. I lived like the little money I had was the only money I would ever see. I now know that this is called living in the "lack" perspective.  It is only now that I have begun to understand the difference in living in abundance and living in lack. I now understand that by living in abundance that I can manifest things that I want such as travel or home renovation by believing in the Universe enough to know that I can create that abundance.  

A big example was that two years ago I set the intention to go to Japan with my daughter and her choir. I had no idea where the money was going to come from. I had not yet even thought about the QSCA (I had thought about becoming a coach but I didn't know how) but I listened to coaches talk about manifesting the life that I want and I decided to put that theory to the test. I told my whole family my intention for myself and my two daughters to go to Japan. As time went on the money manifested itself so we could go on the trip. I made monthly payments and the time came this past month that we went on the trip of a lifetime. My oldest daughter had some conflicts with time so my niece was able to easily fill the third slot and the trip manifested smoothly and easily. 

My next indeavor is the renovation of my bathroom that is showing its age and paying for my oldest  daughter's cosmetology school this coming year. That in itself will be about $12,000. I tell you all this to let you know that there is nothing that cannot be manifested if you believe in the Universe and do the leg work to make those dreams come true. I now know that I don't have to wait for that life I want. I can even create time by setting the intention that my time off will not be taken for things that are not important for the dreams that I am creating. I don't have to wait for retirement and create this huge coaching business to get the freedom I want.  

The only thing that limits my freedom are the fears I create myself that keep me in lack. I am still in the process of creation for my business. For now I continue to work full time as a therapist. The thing that has changed, however, is the belief that I can create the life I want by setting my intentions and taking the steps to make it happen. I don't have to wait for retirement to feel freedom. I have all the freedom I want right now!!  

Do you feel locked into life and unable to fulfill your dreams and desires? I would love to help you!! 

I offer 2 free coaching sessions. I am giving away my letting go of negativity seminar that teaches you how to let go of the negativity that blocks the manifestation process.   Together these are worth about $300 but I believe so much in my desire to help you that I am giving all this away for free so there is no financial obligation while you decide if you and I will work well together. Please click the free gift link above for your free download and contact me for your free sessions. 

If anything that I have said resonates with you then you can't afford to wait for the ability to create abundance to come to you!! I had to do the leg work to let go of lack before I was able to manifest anything.  

You may email me at mina@minasselfesteembuilder.com I am looking forward to hearing from you!! 

Love and light, 

Mina

The people in Japan were so friendly and kind. These family memories are priceless!! 

Are you being a bully to yourself?

My youngest daughter Sarah is in middle school. She is 13 years old and very sensitive. I am what is called an empath.  That means that I sense the emotions of others around me and that is what makes me good at what I do. Sarah has gotten that trait from me. In middle school that is a self esteem nightmare!  She cries at the drop of a hat and other kids know this. It makes her a target for the middle school bullies. 

Earlier this week she was being teased at school and she correctly identified this as bullying. She was so upset that she posted some things on social media that caused an uproar with her peers and a few frantic phone calls from my friends. Bullying is being targeted by the schools and with a quick trip to the assistant principal this problem was taken care of for now anyway. She seems to be back to her old self.  

Today I found a video on facebook that put signs above the doors of public buildings saying "beautiful" and "average".   Please click on this link to see the video for yourself. https://www.facebook.com/minasselfesteembuilder/posts/616516701817217The majority of women were going in the "average"door and seemed to hesitate to go in the door with "beautiful" on it. This really brings up the question for me. When I look at myself with negative eyes am I not bullying myself? 

We all want our children to have good self esteem and want others to be kind to them. I have to ask the question though, would you want other children to say to your child the things that we say to ourselves on a daily basis?  How can we teach our children to love themselves if we can't love ourselves? 

As I thought about this I began thinking about the powerlessness I felt about things when I was in my teens and twenties. Life continued to happen to me. I did not know at the time I could create my own reality by letting go of the negative perceptions and limiting beliefs that I had.  

My goal is that everyone who is struggling to feel good about themselves will begin to shift their thinking and stop that inner bully from limiting our ability to create joy and have fun.

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Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired?

I work as a therapist at a mental health center. One thing that is coming to the forefront is that depression and chronic pain are linked. Likewise our mental and emotional health is linked to our immune system. This year has been a particularly nasty flu season. As usual we were offered flu shots by the company I work for. Because I am not a huge fan of shots I declined. I am certainly not against the flu shot but this was a personal choice.  

Many of my fellow co workers have been ravaged by the flu this year. Unfortunately the strain for the vaccine we had access to was not the predominant strain that hit our area. We work in a public facility. Hundreds of people are seen daily. It stands to reason that our chances of getting sick are high. This is why we are offered the shots every year and as healthcare workers we are required to take TB skin tests yearly. It is now March and so far this year I have been blessed to not even have a cold. Having had back surgery in 2012 I do have chronic pain.  

I see people on a daily basis that allow pain, anxiety and depression take their freedom. Medications have their place in treating these issues but in researching nutrition and immune health there is way more to managing chronic illness and preventing acute illness than just taking medications.  

Do you feel that you have to call in as much as you are at work? Do you go to work sick because you have run out of days? Is sickness passed around your family frequently?  I came across this quote today as I was posting my daily inspiration to my Facebook readers.  

Health...

   “If you don't think your anxiety, depression, sadness and stress impact your physical health, think again. All of these emotions trigger chemical reactions in your body, which can lead to inflammation and a weakened immune system. Learn how to cope, sweet friend. There will always be dark days.”

― Kris Carr 

This got me thinking. How many of my readers are dealing with these issues regularly? Over the years through my work and through personal experiences I have dealt with the above and I am here to tell you we have way more control over this than we would like to believe but as with everything else it takes action on our part to begin seeing results. Here are three ways to improve your immune system and to keep any chronic ailment from taking control such as pain. 

Exercise

Yes I know who has time? My question to you is who has time to be off work regularly due to sickness? I was just like you. Growing up I stood in left field in PE praying that the ball was never hit to me. It was not until college that I found a physical activity that I could stick with. Yes in the 80's I joined the aerobics craze. Unfortunately all that bouncing around did a number on my knees and back. I have a curved spine that finally led to nerve pain and eventual back surgery in 2012. The main excuse I hear at work for not exercising is "I have chronic pain". They are always shocked when I don't allow my clients to use that as an excuse. The number one best exercise for anyone with chronic pain or arthritis is swimming laps which I do or any water exercise program. Of course if pain is not an issue then the multitude of physical activities are endless. The key is to find something you enjoy and stick with it.  

Good nutrition   

I have always had issues with my weight. At 13 I joined Weight Watchers and lost 20 lbs before entering high school. I was pretty much able to keep my weight at bay in high school which is astonishing since most of my activity was standing in left field. In college as the cafeteria food and beer started taking its toll I found aerobics to keep it at bay. Nutrition, however, was not something I paid attention to. At 48 I have had high blood pressure for many years. My cholesterol varies on how well I have been eating and my level of exercise. As I age I realise that weight is not as much the goal as good health. I managed to stop smoking in 2012 by making sure I had access to good foods and exercising regularly. My goal was to stop and keep my weight down. I am proud to say I did that so it is possible to stop and not gain weight if the addiction is substitued for exercise and good diet.  

For immune health it is important to stay away from processed foods and to keep the colon working well. An apple a day keeps the doctor away is actually a very true statement. I started bringing my lunches to work which saves money and my waistline. Where I used to bring low fat frozen foods now I bring soups, salads and left overs from the weekends. All of the home made alternatives taste much better and are helpful at keeping your immune system working in good order. My new rule of thumb is if I can't pronounce it I shouldn't eat it. I am not saying I am perfect but I have not had to take a day off for being sick in almost a year. Before that it was over a year. This stuff works.  

Keeping a positive attitude and gratitude 

Okay Mina enough with the gratitude already. What does having gratitude have to do with staying well? The number one reason we are sick and tired is because we are stressed out! Why are we stressed? Because things are not going the way we think they should at home, work, school, with our kids, spouses....  The list goes on and on. Our attitude towards others and towards our situations are the primary reason we stay stressed. Do you ever feel anxiety in your gut? That feeling that something isn't right. It is no coincidence that 70% or so of our immune system is in our gut. The more anxiety we have the more susceptible to illness we are.  

So in conclusion we have way more control over our immune system than we originally have been led to believe. Sickness and pain does not have to be something that we fall slave to if we choose to make real life style changes. In some ways the diet and exercise are the easier things to change. Gyms are on every corner and even McDonalds is posting nutrition information. How do we change years and years of anxiety provoking programming that invades our lives and our minds daily? My job as a therapist is to work with people who have diagnosable illnesses and give them tools to cope with the things going on in their lives. What about the rest of the world? Who is going to teach them some tools? That is my job as well now that I have started my coaching business. Through the certification process I am learning tools that work quickly and easily to give you results in the first session.  

Please leave your comments below. I would love to hear your feedback. My prayer for you is healthy and happy daily living.  

Mina Price, LCSW

Law Of Attraction Coach

Do you feel like a victim?

We discussed in the last post the importance of setting a positive intention to create a happier day.  Why is this necessary?  Why do we spend so much time in negative thought? The truth as I understand it comes from the primitive part of the brain that is in charge of our instincts. How did we know when a predator was close?  When man first walked the Earth these instincts meant the difference between life and death. Today,  however,  they have begun to run amuck and are hurting us as often or more often than they help us. How do we keep our instincts sharp without allowing them to create a negative view of the world?

Allow our life experience to be learning experiences rather than ongoing reminders of failure or hurt. 

We all have times in our lives where we have been hurt or made poor decisions that caused negative consequences. The primitive part of our brains hold on to that hurt and pain to protect us from experiencing those things again. An example would be a divorce or bad break up. We may tell ourselves that relationships are bad or the ever popular "there are no good men/women left out there". The problem with this thinking is through the law of attraction we create what we think. If this is your truth then this is what will manifest in your life. 

How can I change this?  The answer is to find the lesson meant to be learned and take that with you in the future. Use the information to make better decisions.  Ask yourself the question "what part did my behavior play and how can I learn from this mistake"? In short stop blaming others and focus on the role you played. 

Stop allowing yourself to become the victim in every negative scenario. 

When you are a victim there is no ability to create anything different in the future. Sure there will be times when we will feel victimized but the longer we stay in victim mode the harder it is to take control back of our lives. It might make us feel better initially to blame others entirely for the failure but eventually that victim role will manifest in events where we are always a victim. 

When we take responsibility for our role,  our decisions,  our circumstances we create the power and knowledge needed to prevent the same thing happening in the future.  We become able to see signs of negativity much more quickly and that will allow us to make better choices. The more in touch we are with our feelings, decisions and consequences the more power we have to prevent negativity from coming  into our lives. 

Make the choice to live the life you want in the here and now.  

Does this sound familiar? If this happens then I will be happy. If I have the right job, right relationship, the right house,  the right car etc. then I will have everything and my life will be perfect. So what about now?  Is there a way to be happy without those things? The secret to letting go of negativity is to no longer look outside ourselves for our happiness and to have gratitude for all we do have. When we focus on what we don't have those things become harder to obtain. Living a life in gratitude allows us to manifest positive things into our lives effortlessly. Our jobs become fun,  our house a glorious gift and our spouse a real person with flaws and gifts as every human has. Our happiness is not tied to another human's behavior. We have the power and the ability to choose the life we want and the people we want in our lives. As a victim of our circumstances we don't have that choice. So let me ask you which feels better power/choice over our lives or being victimized by others? For me I choose to create my own destiny by my choices and actions. I choose to only bring into my life people that raise my vibration and truly have my best interests at heart. I choose to not be a victim of my circumstances. How about you? 

If you feel you need help moving out of the habit of negativity to create the life you want then coaching may be your answer. I give FREE introductory sessions with no obligation. Please click the link below to get started. 

Mina Prices, LCSW 

Law of Attraction Coach 

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The problems we have are the size we make them.  

3 Steps To A Happier Day

Does this sound familiar? "Ugh tomorrow is Monday and I have to go to work".  "I just don't think I can go another day". "No one appreciates me". Do I need to go on or do you get the picture? Did you know that how you feel each day can be determined by you before you even get out of bed? 

Most people feel that how their day goes is up to the people around them or the tasks that have to be completed.   Would you like to know how to create more energy and feel better each day? Here are 3 simple ways to make your day better. 

Set an intention to have a great day before you get out of bed.   

What did you say Mina?  Are you kidding me? No friends I am not kidding. It may seem simple but making the decision to have an awesome day from the beginning will set the tone for a fantastic day. Will it make my work go away or make my boss nicer? Probably not but you will be in a much better frame of mind to deal with whatever comes your way. 

Smile at everyone you see.   

Before or after I hit the coffee maker? That will be your choice but the sooner you put that smile on your face the better you will feel immediately. Smiling and laughter changes our chemical make up and raises our vibration immediately.  Other people will respond more positively to you and your daily interactions with others will improve. This includes that same boss you think is "mean". 

Pick at least one task that you will complete during your day either at home or work that gives you a sense of accomplishment.

Have you ever had one of those days that you don't feel anything has been accomplished? How do you feel on those days?  Frustrated or out of sorts maybe? Even if it is one small task that you have been meaning to do or putting off make sure at least one thing gets done per day. It's amazing how much better a person feels when they get at least one thing meaningful accomplished. 

The bottom line is that no one cares about how your day is more than you. If you wait for the world to GIVE  you the "perfect" day then you give everyone  and everything control over you and your happiness. For anyone that hates the thought of others having control over you think about deliberately creating as many good days as you want. With these three steps you will be well on your way. 

If you like the idea of feeling better on a daily basis or have specific issues that you feel are standing in your way of being your best self then my FREE coaching sessions could be just what you need to move everything into emotional freedom. Feel free to contact me at minaua@icloud.com for more information. 

Mina Price, LCSW

Law of Attraction Coach 

Do you look for beauty wherever you go?  

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Do you let your expectations ruin your Valentine's Day?

It's that day that half the population loves and the other half dreads. Even those in committed relationships can have friction on this day. Are your expectations ruining your Valentine's Day?

Do you expect your Valentine to do certain things or buy certain gifts to stay happy on that day? Do you utilize Valentine's Day to tell everyone how important they are to you? If you are single do you dread going to work through a sea of roses? How can one day cause so much anxiety and disappointment on one end and happiness on the other end? It's called the law of polarity. Each feeling has another feeling that is its polar opposite.  

Why is this important to know? It is important because we can shift from that negative feeling to a positive feeling in an instant. How is this possible? It is possible through the art of gratitude. 

Did you get six roses while your workmate got 12? Are you angry about that six or grateful that someone thought of you? One of our coworkers made us red velvet cupcakes yesterday as a show of appreciation. I was very grateful for her generosity. If Valentine's Day is difficult for you because you are single, use that time to do something nice for others. If the sea of roses makes it hard to think about going to work why not do things for your co workers that show your gratitude for them. Warm feelings are created by giving to others so the expectation for the day has been changed from getting to giving. 

Staying in gratitude for what we have keeps our expectations in check. Would you rather have someone who treats you well everyday who gives you their heart or someone who treats you badly but gives you 12 roses on Valentine's Day. Being grateful for what we have including our friends, family, job and coworkers will create happiness every day. 

If you are to the point where gratitude is hard to come by and your negative emotions are taking over please consider coaching as an option. We have many processes that will shift your thinking in minutes. I offer two free sessions with no obligation. You may email me at Minaua@icloud.com for more information. 

Much love to you all this Valentine's Day!! 

Mina Price, LCSW 

Law of Attraction Coach

Do you pick your friends or do they pick you?

Do you pick your friends or do you let them pick you? Some friends may not have your best interests at heart. Be deliberate about who you allow in your life. 

Friendship...

   “A friend should be one in whose understanding and virtue we can equally confide, and whose opinion we can value at once for its justness and its sincerity.”

― Robert Hall

As I learn about the subject of the Universal laws I am beginning to understand how our choices in life play a major part in what we create. I would tell my therapy clients how important it is to choose their friends wisely. There are consequences, for example, if you are with someone who robs a store even if you had no prior knowledge that robbery would take place. 

I have learned it goes way deeper than that. Our income for example will reflect the people we choose to socialise with. If we want to find a friend or a lover with certain characteristics we need to identify those characteristics and place ourselves around people with those characteristics. Although the movie "Pretty Woman" makes a great fairy tale the reality is we attract those in our circle that mirror where we are mentally and financially.  

Some people will allow their friends to choose them based on their desire to have someone around even if that someone does not represent where they want to be in life. To be a deliberate creator of our own lives we need to really think about the people we let in. Is this person someone I would want my children to be with? If the answer is no then it stands to reason that having them in your circle would cause problems for you as well.  

Do you feel a high level of negativity in your life? Take time to make a list of what you want your life to look like.  Do the people in your life reflect that vision? Is your family building you up or bringing you down? This is difficult but people who have different values from their family may find it helpful to limit contact with those who emit negativity or energy that they don't want in their lives.  

The bottom line is that we as individuals have the power to create the life we want by taking an active role picking the people that we spend our time with. Do you really want to leave that to chance?

How are you taking care of yourself?

Do you feel as if your life is missing something? You can't quite put your finger on it but there is something that you want that you feel you can't have. Is this something that you focus on regularly? You have the house,  the car, the husband, the kid oh wait! That's it! Are you missing yourself in the daily process that is your life? 

We as women focus on others and their needs while forgetting about ourselves. "I don't have time to have friends". "I don't have time to exercise but I hate my thighs and my jelly belly!" "Who will take care of the family if I go away for the weekend and have some relaxation" or Heaven forbid some fun?

As a therapist I heard these words over and over again. The translation is "I am just not that important". There would then be a blank stare and a quiet "I am important". Then I would say "tell me some things you do that are nice for yourself". Again a blank stare would come from the other side of the room. 

We have now established what the focus for our next few sessions are. Let me pause here to say what has excited me about coaching is how quickly and easily people can shift into a positive frame of mind with a few sessions that are guaranteed to make a difference. I continue to work during the day in the mental health field teaching people with serious mental illness how to cope with their illness and improve their quality of life. What about the rest of the world that don't need "therapy" but still feel something is missing? I have found coaching to be the answer to that question.  

As I move into my 25th year as a therapist I am back in school again. This time I am becoming certified as a Law Of Attraction Coach. This is something that had been nagging me for a few years now as nothing less than a "calling". I completely understand that word now. This process is teaching me brand new ways to help people feel good about themselves and achieve things that they never believed possible. This includes but is not limited to making themselves a priority.  

I looked at different programs out there and the one that really called me was Christy Whitman's Quantum Success Coaching Academy. She is a brilliant teacher who has trained other brilliant teachers to give us the tools to help everyday people just like you shine in their lives and find their purposes. She has a new book coming out this month called The Art Of Having It All. It is a handbook for women to get everything they ever wanted out of life. If you pre order your book you will get access to 150 interviews with top minds of today and immediate access to the audio and ebook. The books are shipping on February 26, 2015. I have read the book and it is amazing. Everything Christy puts out is top notch!! The price of the book is $16.95 plus shipping. Just click the link below for access to this life changing book. https://christywhitman.isrefer.com/go/aha/mprice

If you feel you are ready to grow and shift in a positive direction feel free to email me and you will receive two FREE sessions to decide if coaching is right for you. Thank you so much for reading my first blog! Feel free to share this blog with the world!! I want to reach as many people as possible to help them begin their journey to happiness.  

Love and joy, 

Mina

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